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Is it right to “force” our kids into something that itself is not up to the mark? (Micro-blog)

Parents often do tell their children to study “hard”.Which is understandable to some extent as 1. They’ve put their resources on their children and there is nothing wrong in seeking return on investment. 2. They believe education is the be all,end all. In other words they believe that formal education is the sole determinant of their child’s success.

While I agree with the 1st reason, I sincerely disagree and condemn the 2nd reason. Formal education can be a part of life but not life itself. Let your children explore this world. Why force them into something that itself isn’t upto the mark.

I personally am fortunate that my parents never “forced” me to study “hard”. Never did my parents scold me for what I scored in academics. They always told me that I’m different and treated me like I was special. I feel this specialness even today. This specialness gives me the courage to try new things. It encourages me to explore the unexplored.

If you are a parent reading this or if you are a child reading this then ensure you get your parents to read this. I want to tell them that doing well in academics may/may not fetch your child success but making them feel special surely will.

If you really want to give your child something-give this feeling of specialness,uniqueness. Make your child believe they are the best no matter how they fare academically. If you get this right, you’ll be setting your child up for success.

-ChoubeySahab

Playing outdoors-A thing of the past? (Micro-blog)

Isn’t it extremely hard these days to find time, opportunity and place to play an outdoor game?

First let’s talk about time, a teenager these days is reduced to a shuttle between a pair of badmintons ( tution centre and school ) .

Parents themselves aren’t concerned about their child’s physical activity.

Talking about opportunity, with such mindset of parents-children have found peace with smartphone games like pubg.

They are happy with “Winner winner chicken dinner” flashing on their screens.

But is there availability of land to play an outdoor sport- I seriously doubt this. With rapid urbanization and metro stations all around us. The government has conveniently bartered our playing spaces for urbanization.

Lack of physical activity in growth years can significantly impact proper body development.

Is walking to tution centres the only physical activity left for us?

-ChoubeySahab

Distractions are good in times of suffering (micro blog)

Sounds insane, doesn’t it? But I’ve observed that distractions help me when I’m not at my best.

Distractions give me an opportunity to forget about my suffering or pain and get indulged in something different.

The good thing about distractions is they don’t hold your attention forever. So, you can get distracted, change your mood, start working again.

Whenever I’m struggling with getting things done-I try and get myself distracted. It helps me start a fresh on solving my problem. It gives me a fresh state of mind.

Don’t confuse me for saying “Distractions are good”. They are only good when you need an uncluttered mind to get the best out of you.

Distractions are like dusters on the blackboard of your mind. Use it only when you feel what’s already written isn’t of any use.

So get distracted the next time you feel stuck

-ChoubeySahab

Are newspapers worth reading? (Micro-blog)

In times of fake and paid media. Should we still take out time for reading news?

When political parties are selling their propaganda through news articles and advertisements.

Media has always had a huge impact on what stance we take on any particular issue. The facts they present is what we base our opinion on.

Isn’t this dangerous? When media controls what you get to know on any issue.

Isn’t this a serious threat to our democracy?

Media gives full attention to election rallies while ignoring the ground reality.

They never miss a single PM rally. But ever did they tell you that they charge political parties for showing their election rallies live.

This is a really unfortunate time for journalism. A time when news is not what you should know about but what they are paid to tell you about.

The question here is:

Is journalism dead or are we still in the process?

-ChoubeySahab

Frequent divorces in the west (micro-blog)

Have you ever wondered as to why divorces are so common in the western countries?

After giving it a serious thought, I figured out that western couples prioritise love over marriage while it is the reverse in countries like India.

Western couples end their relationship just when they think that it’s turned into a liability.

This can also be interpreted as lack of understanding and negotiation skills of the western people.

They don’t marry to take it as long as their lives.They are very much at peace with the idea of divorce.

Also, their weddings aren’t as expensive as big fat Indian weddings. So divorces don’t mean a financial hit for them.

Will your marriage last until love or life?

-ChoubeySahab

The meaningless “😂” (micro-blog)

How often do you use 😂 in your conversations?

How many times are tears actually rolling down your cheeks due to laughing?

Let’s accept it, we overuse 😂 while totally ignoring 🙂☺😀😁-these poor emojis

We use 😂 when our face actually looks like😐

Emojis have lost their worth, are words next?

-ChoubeySahab

Validation (micro-blog)

Have you ever wondered- why are these social media apps so addictive?

This is because these social apps give us much needed validation. The likes, the follows , the comments all of them make us feel good.

But why are we so craving for validation?

It’s because this is what was taught to us eversince childhood. Our parents made sure we look our best when we go out or even when there’s a guest coming home.

Is validation important?

In my view, it is but only till the time it’s logical. If you dress better for a party, the host will feel good. The next time he/she throws a party, you are assured of an invitation (and free food ;). But if you had not dressed well for party then the host may doubt inviting you to his next.

Seeking validation is so often confused with doing things one would not normally do. This can be seen in peer validation. Some go out of the way to get validation from their group of friends. This validation can be illogical and harmful even.

So, go seek validation, the one that gets you free food, not the one that gets you fake friends.

-ChoubeySahab

Formality in education (micro-blog)

When was the last time you researched and made your holidays assignment all by yourself, without copying or totally outsourcing it to someone else.

When was the last time your teacher did something beyond expectation to get you to understand a concept better.

Do you recall your teacher fretting more over finishing the syllabus on time without caring for student’s understanding.

Do you recall using apps like Meritnation to do your tution homework

In all the above cases we are treating education like a formality

The focus of all the stakeholders in the present system is not learning but achieving good scores

What else do we expect from a system called “formal education”

But the more important question here is-

Can we afford to give learning a back seat ?

-ChoubeySahab

Respecting different opinions (micro-blog)

In the internet age, it is quite normal to be confronted with opposing opinions. There will always be people who have a different opinion than yours and they feel very strongly about it.

What should I do with them?

Should I try and convince them that my opinion is right and theirs is wrong OR should I simply respect their opinion while holding firm of mine

What I do is, first I try and indulge in an meaningful conversation with them ,this helps me understand the opposing perspective better. I try to give them good logic as to why I think my opinion is right.

But if I find that the other person is sort of obsessed with his/her opinion (which is fine, even I’m obsessed with some of my opinions). However good a logic I may give, it won’t bring much change to his/her opinion. At this moment I tell the other person that I respect their opinion while holding onto mine.

So if you hate this micro-blog post

“I respect your opinion” 😉

-ChoubeySahab

Is there still a superior species than us? (Micro-blog)

Does a species which is far better than us simultaneously exist with us without us knowing? Or maybe a species which lives in a higher world, a world of which we have no clue about.

Are we all just characters of a game which someone else is playing.

A game that even has cheatcodes like “corruption”. Is our life stored in giga-bites on the computer of one from the higher species.

Is there someone, when we die, his/her screen flashes “GAME OVER”

-ChoubeySahab